Chris asked me what I wanted for Mother’s Day. While I could think of a list of things that would be great (like a ceiling fan in the family room, maybe replacing the windows with the fake stained glass roses left by the previous owners YUCK!!!, or maybe a fresh coat of paint in our atrium…), it occurred to me that what I mostly want is to know that I am doing a good job with these two crazy kids! I mean, I have piles of laundry to fold, I’m almost out of milk, and I have no idea what we are going to have for dinner. There is a thick layer of dust on the bookshelf and I don’t even want to talk about the bathrooms. Can you relate to that? I bet you can.
I think it’s hard to know about mothering because being a mother is about so much more than the duties of running a home – whether you work outside or strictly inside of it. It’s so much easier to measure being a good housewife. It’s much harder to measure being a good mother. Being a mother is about the intangible things – and because of that, it’s really hard to know if you are making the grade.I would say that being a mother is about creating a safe place for your children to run to when they are scared. It’s about teaching them that they are loved unconditionally. It’s about fostering laughter and joy – even if the living room doesn’t get dusted again this week. It’s about playing with the hose, even if everything gets full of mud, it’s about tomato gardens and planting sunflower seeds, and it’s about princess tea parties. It’s about setting good boundaries and holding them accountable to high expectations.
The only way I’ve found to measure those things is through pictures. When I’m frustrated or lacking confidence, I take out my camera and snap a few frames of the kids. That way, I have something to look at, something I can use to step back and see the my children for who they are. I end up with evidence that I am doing a good job.
This year, I compiled some of my favorite mother-child images to share with you and made it into a slideshow. It makes me cry :-) and they aren’t even images of my children!!! If you’re an RSS subscriber, you may need to go to our blog to see the show.
I bet that you could use some updated images with your little (or not so little) ones. I’d love to set up a session to capture you with them. Consider it an opportunity to acquire some tangible evidence that you are doing a great job. Call me and book a session before June 14 and receive an additional $50 print credit with the package your choose!!! Please forward this blog post to any other mommy who could use a little tangible evidence of her amazing-ness. I’d also love to give anyone who refers a friend that books by June 14th a $50 print credit, too – either for prints from a previous session or a future one.
So don’t worry about the laundry. It will be there Monday I promise (it will even be there on Tuesday…)!!! Listen for laughter and enjoy those kiddos! (if you don’t see a “slideshow window”...click here to play!)
Happy Mother’s Day,